one year and counting

who would have thought it, thats us on our first wedding anniversary, enjoying gale force winds in capetown, not called the windy city for no reason. in four months, it will be our second anniversary, and now i begin to notice the conditioning, subtle but we are conditioned. i work a full day, so does my husband, when we get home, there is a total difference in our approach to the rest of the day, take yesterday as an example, he was home earlier then i, our helper, whom we have twice a week, had just left, he got busy with model airplanes, down in his man cave, i got home around 6pm, a full days work, and niece and nephews bathtime behind me,..(their parents are on a trip), i got home, got started with dressing our bed in clean linen, checking the house was neat and tidy,then off to the kitchen to get dinner started, he called to find out when dinner would be ready. around an hour or so later, hubby was up, looking for dinner, why was it instinctive on my part to do what i was doing, and he was happy to do things to releave his work day tension, somehow when we get married, it just seems that our work load trebbles, he has time, for manicures and pedicures, boys nights, and bike rides, it seems i am always fussing about cleaning house, or doing the laundry, or seeing to dinner. looking after the house, while he has army duty or is on a business trip. i am decidedly of the opinion that men are conditioned to take care of themselves and relax, while we (the women) are always struggling to find time, for down time. marriage is exhausting work, women are a superior breed...